seventeenth memory [text]

[brokenmemories]

i have a question 

if you've ever had someone gone from your life

would you do something to celebrate their birthday? even if they're not around to appreciate it?

thank you 

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[digitalorunknown]

What is a birthday?

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[brokenmemories]

the day of your birth

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[digitalorunknown]

[...Well, yeah, but...huh.]

If they are gone, how do you tell when they are born?

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[used_bubble]

I've never had much reason to celebrate them at all, to be honest.

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[brokenmemories]

Not much of a big deal back home?

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[used_bubble]

Something like that.

It's just another year gone by, isn't it? I don't see what the big deal is.

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[ghostytrainer]

yes.
birthdays are supposed to be happy things and even if the person isn't around anymore, they would want you to be happy, right?
and it's a nice way of remembering them.

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[brokenmemories]

after what happened between us
i would be surprised that she would still want me to be happy

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[ghostytrainer]

oh...
but you still care for her, right?

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[divinewind]

I think that I would. It would be a way to remember them.

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[brokenmemories]

[Making sure to lock it before replying back to Temeraire...]

have you ever had a situation like this back home?

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[divinewind]

With losing someone? Yes, one of my dragon friends was killed, and also several of my crew in a battle shortly before I came here. But I did not know any of their birthdays to celebrate on.

Was the person you lost from here, or from your home?

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[unended]

If you want to there's nothing wrong with doing that.

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[searsblindly]

I wouldn't!

Dying is a natural thing that happens and you can't expect them to always be around. [Terezi has very complicated feelings about this. But at the same time, birthdays aren't really a huge deal for trolls. Nor are death anniversaries.] But we never had a huge reason to celebrate birthdays nor celebrate someone being dead!

It was pretty common if you weren't strong enough to survive!

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[brokenmemories]

[Being part of a family full of death and being tormented by ghosts, Misaki knew death was a common thing everywhere, regardless of world you're from. She's grown numb to most deaths but there were still some that still affected her.]

I knew I'd get an answer like that from someone. [She didn't sound upset but just indifferent.] I remember someone in the place telling me a similar thing from their world too. Do you know a...Kaya?

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[searsblindly]

[Trolls just don't mourn. It isn't something that is a usual part of their society, so the fact that humans do is actually a surprising and foreign concept to Terezi.]

I don't know a Kaya! Was she a troll?

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[exeggutorhead]

if they're someone you want to remember, then I don't see why you shouldn't.

it's not like someone who's gone can appreciate a funeral either, but people go all out on those.

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[gunkonmyboot]

Whatever floats your boat.

It's better than celebrating their funerals I imagine.

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[timelymaid]

yes! :)

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[brokenmemories]

of course i'd expect that kind of answer from you

[She didn't mean to sound rude but just amused and maybe relieved.]

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[timelymaid]

thats because you know me!
:D

and if you ever need to text or talk im always around

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[scalded]

I wouldn't.

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[brokenmemories]

[That strikes two "I wouldn't"s.]

do you mind explaining?

[ardent]

[...the response this will get is surprisingly subdued, given the usual shouting and grandstanding this one is prone to; it's...a good question, really.]

Personally? Yes, but I think "celebrate" is the wrong word. It was family, in my case; I don't think he would have really appreciated my remembering it even if he was able to know about it somehow, but it's important to me to do so.

Take the time to remember the person, maybe dedicate the day to them? It doesn't have to be lavish...unless they would have wanted that, I guess?

[brokenmemories]

now that i read it over, i think 'celebrate' was actually a wrong word to use in this case

your suggestion about what to do does sound the right thing to do however
its been a while since she's actually crossed my mind so i think that'll be a good start

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i am sorry to hear about what happened in your family